Last night and this morning I had one of those moments of self awareness. You know, when you’re like, “Oooohhhhh.”
I was having a conversation with my mom about knitting. She’s learning to knit and has a hard time finishing things because of newbie knitting mistakes. She takes her knitting out every time she sees a mistake. I tell her that making mistakes is part of knitting and you have to realize your mistake and move on and by taking it out every time, she’s not learning what she did. She just says she’s not “that kind of person” and “I can’t leave in a mistake.” Every time we have this conversation, I roll my eyes and tell her life isn’t perfect and she needs to get over it and she gets flustered and I get frustrated and give up.
And I usually think to myself, “Mom is so ridiculous.” But last night, I realized, I do that,too. Not as extreme her, but still. Here I am judging when I’m giving the advice I need to take. Isn’t that how it always works?
I’m in a very intense design program. I work SO hard to make my projects the absolute best I can. Often to my own detriment (lack
of sleep, lack of eating, lack of sanity) and because nothing can ever be perfect [ever EVER EVER ] (except for Chico, duh) I work work work work work then love it, then hate it , then hate it, then cry a little bit, then cry a lot, then start over, go back to the original, then resolve to the fact that it sucks and give up. Horrific cycle with me. When I was in 6th grade I couldn’t play a scale on the flute perfectly, so, instead of taking a break like a normal person, I hit the flute against the floor as hard as I could and a key popped off.
The quarter is winding down and I find myself in the same place. I can’t get something perfect and I don’t want to deal with it anymore. Instead of having that attitude, from here out I’m going to work really hard to recognize when I feel this way and acknowledge that sometimes, things are good enough. It’s okay if something is good enough. Because, really, everything has to be just good enough–nothing will ever be perfect.
Have a lovely day!
W